As wedding planners, wedding business owners and creatives, one of the biggest mistakes we make is putting ourselves second (or even farther down the list) and not devoting enough attention and time to our wellness and self-care. The truth is that taking care of yourself regularly will make you a better creative, wedding planner, wedding vendor, business owner, colleague, partner, and friend. When we get wrapped up in the busy wedding season or a big wedding project, it’s especially easy to not give yourself enough attention. This can look like getting greasy takeout for dinner rather than cooking at home, skipping your yoga class to squeeze in one more hour at the computer, or staying up until 3:00 am to tackle a never-ending to-do list.
What’s the first thing you neglect when you are short on time? I know for me it’s sleep. I’m a night person, so when I have a lot of work to do I am tempted to eat something quick (and usually not healthy) for dinner and stay up extra late working. Here are five simple wellness tips that I personally use to take care of myself throughout the year, especially during the busy summer wedding season:
1. Take the next day completely off.
We’ve all heard of the term “wedding hangover” to describe the exhausted, can’t-get-off-the-couch feeling the day after an event, even though you haven’t had a drop of alcohol. Wedding planners, you know what I’m talking about! That’s why you should take the day after the wedding completely offer. Or, for those of you like florists that work the day after a wedding, take the second day off. Spend the day recharging by doing something that relaxes you, such as binge-watching the latest episode of Real Housewives, getting a massage, relaxing at the pool, or going out to dinner at your favorite local restaurant. By completely turning off from work the day after the wedding, you’ll let your mind and body rest. This way, you’ll feel rested and ready for the next wedding and your next clients will get the wedding-pro you instead of the exhausted and burned out version.
2. Get enough sleep.
It is so easy to stay up until midnight or get up at dawn (or worse, both) to try to fit in all your wedding work. The truth is that eventually, this catches up with you, usually by the end of wedding season if not sooner. So, decide bedtimes and wake-up times and stick to them. With enough sleep, you’ll feel refreshed and ready to take on the day. You’ll be able to give each wedding your full attention rather than being groggy, sleep-deprived and worn out.
3. Don’t work after work.
Once you are done working for the day, be done. This means no checking your email, no browsing Facebook, no checking out Instagram stories stats, no replying to work text messages. It can all wait until the next day—nothing after 7:00 pm can’t wait until 8:00 am. Give your brain a break from work and your eyes a break from the screens. Plus, your friends and family will really appreciate having the whole you, rather than the distracted you.
Since you won’t be working, you can now give your attention to the people and activities you really enjoy. By giving yourself this break, you’re creating quality time that you need to survive and thrive at your wedding job. To take this one step further, be sure that your clients know what your business hours are and that if they contact you after business hours, they will need to wait until the next day for a reply.
Find an activity you like to do that gets you moving. I personally love to be outside—I’m not sure what it is about being in nature and the fresh air, but it always makes me feel refreshed. When I take my dog for a walk in the cool evenings, everything feels so calm in our neighborhood. It’s a peaceful way to end a full wedding planning workday. During the week, I attend workout classes. I really love classes because I work at home alone and this gets me out of the house and around other people. Whatever form of exercise you choose, it’s an amazing stress reliever and another opportunity to turn off your brain.